Spider mites just NOT leaving!!!!

[ladyslipper]

Hi guys, I have a chronic case of spider mites on my phals and have just spent the better part of an hour picking these @@#$%^&*(*((_)!!!! bugs of my little Mini Mark. They seem to really like the flowers on this little guy. The other plants are also being effected but to a somewhat lesser degree (but I know they are just waiting....)

Part of my problem is my grow area is really small so its not too hard for bugs to go nuts. Right now I am using a combination of alcohol on Qtips and toothpicks to pick the beasts off then spraying with NEEM Oil. Every day..

I am at the point were I am thinking to tossing all my chids and sanitizing the whole living room (this is where I grow my plants). I would like to go in with nuclear weaponry but I do live in the area so my arsenal has to be a bit controlled. Does anyone have any better idea on how to get rid of spider mites? There doesn't seem to be any mites in the potting medium. The bugs are a "fuzzy" white/grey and some seem so big I could ride them. HELP!!! MARY