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Originally Posted by Ordphien
It's not the people so much as it is me lol.
I dislike talking to strangers, smiling at random people, and going out in general is pretty stressful.
I do... because as tiring as it is I don't really wanna become a recluse.
But a crowded show with lots of vendors I need to talk to us a bit much for me.
I'll have to make an orchid friend to go with me. I'm a lot better with support.
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Hey, I know this is off topic a bit, but I think you should go to one. Hear me out.
Go and keep your head down the first time, don't talk to anyone or smile at strangers. If an orchid you like doesn't have a price on it, the vendors are usually so busy that if you don't want to talk about it beyond asking about price, you won't be forced to. Don't stand around anyone solitary (they might try and talk to you if they're by themselves too) or large groups discussing the orchids on display, (someone might try and include you in the discussion.) You'll have fun looking at all the orchids even if it's by yourself. Going to an orchid show can be a very solitary activity if you make it one. Then maybe the 2nd or 3rd time you try to go to one, you might be more comfortable there in general, making small talk, but again, you don't actually have to if you avoid it, (which isn't hard.)
I'm not socially awkward or even shy, but I am used to the way people are in NY, and am trying to get used to how friendly and chatty people are here in the south. It was making me awkward and half the time I feel like a jerk, because I'm not used to so much smiling and small talk with strangers, all day, every day, almost everywhere you go. It's exhausting to me most of the time and I just want to buy my groceries without having a conversation with the cashier. In NY people mostly ignore others, we're very "cold" and I'm used to going about my business that way. I know that sounds terrible but it's what I've grown accustomed to and it's nothing like that here. It's taken me nearly a year to get over the random smiling and conversation in public, but I don't assume people are being sarcastic when they try and talk to me anymore, so that's something!
Anyway, just putting that out there. The first orchid show I went to when I moved to Fl, I didn't talk to anyone, but it was because I didn't realize it was such a "social event" around here and I didn't know anyone yet. I made a point to change that, because I didn't want to be anti-social, but you totally can be when you go to one. If you're the type of person who can have fun by themselves, and it sounds like you might be. Orchid shows are so much fun and such a great way to see different types of orchids in person, I'd hate for anyone that loves orchids to miss out because their a little more on the introverted side.
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